DO...
- Ask them out in person, not via Facebook or text, etc. Nothing says, "I'm really intimidated about asking you out," more than asking someone out through text message. Grow a pair.
- Dress nicely. The idea is to go as casual and comfortable as possible, without looking like a slob. Try a cute summer dress with sandals or a floral print top with jeans. For more ideas, see the Cosmopolitan magazine article featuring X:Men Origins: Wolverine here.
- Be on time, but not early! Never show up early, your date will probably still be getting ready.
- Compliment on how your date looks. Compliments will get you everywhere.
- Have an escape plan if your date is boring. Everyone has had one date experience that has been painful to sit through. The guy is dull and boring, or the girl won't stop talking... It might be a decent idea to figure out other activities that are going on that night, like a party or a game of Monopoly with your mom.
- Decide if it's going to be a group date, or a one-on-one.
- Bring enough money to pay for your dinner if need be. There is always the awkward moment when the bill comes and no one is exactly sure how to pay it... generally speaking, GIRLS - OFFER TO PAY! But ... GUYS - PAY FOR HER MEAL. A lot of people won't "count" it as a date unless the guy pays.
DON'T...
- Let it be a one-sided conversation. You're not going to get a second date if you don't shut up or if you don't say a word. Conversation needs to be a give and take. Ask your date about him/herself and expect to be asked the same in return.
- Text during dinner. It's just rude.
- Talk badly about ex's. This is for two reasons. One, talking badly about your ex makes YOU look bad. No one wants to date someone who trash talks their ex. That could be them eventually! And two, if I hear your crazy ex-girlfriend has been stalking you and wants to kill anyone you date, I'm not going to date you. All you need to mention about an ex is his/her name, how long you dated, who broke up with whom, and that you're over it.
- Mention unnecessary information. Your date does not want to know about your last gynecological appointment.
- Ask your date how he feels about marriage, kids, etc. Unless you've been together for a long time, these topics are off limits. It may end up scaring your date away.
- Talk about your criminal record. I think this one is self explanatory.
- Be too available. Don't call your date immediately after you part ways.
- Be too aloof. Do call the next day to say what a great time you had, unless, of course, you didn't.
- Check out other people while on your date. I don't care if Heidi Klum or Johnny Depp walks by, it's just rude.
- Date a married person. Again, self explanatory.
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